In a relationship, sometimes advice from the TV, magazines, or even friends and family can be confusing. So, what are you left with, when you’re actually in a situation where you have to make an important decision, is your gut. However, we have to admit that our gut isn’t always 100% accurate, especially when it comes to finding a mate. When do you choose to trust your intuition?
Choose To Trust Your Intuition When The Conditions Are Right
The simplest answer to the above question is when the conditions are right. This means that there must be certain factors in place before you can go with whatever your intuition is telling you. These conditions are as follows:
So what is your experience level with regards to a certain situation? If it is low, then you should gather data as much as possible because you don’t have credible intuitions yet. The facts should strengthen your intuition. If the facts don’t support your gut feel, then maybe your intuition is wrong.
You might be pressed for time to make a decision. How much time pressure are you facing? If time is short, then you won’t be able to do the decomposition of a situation. If your intuitions have been time-tested and have demonstrated their value, then follow your gut. But if not, your lack of experience plus the time constraint may affect your choices.
Think about what kind of person are you? An open-minded person should be more likely to adapt and revise views when presented with facts. Meanwhile, a definitive person resists change. A person who doesn’t like changes definitely should not go making an intuitive judgment.
Are you consulting with other people? If yes, then they are more likely to want some justification for your choice. With that, you can justify your choice and they will be satisfied because you are able to support it more than just your gut feeling.
Putting Your Intuitions On Hold
When in doubt, put your intuitions on hold until you have more data. In dating, for example, you can review the credentials of your date and make assessments based on the fine-grained evaluation features. Plus, consider what others say.
When you have more practice and you made good decisions based on your gut feel, then maybe it is safe to say that you can trust your intuition. If not, do more research. You don’t want to make the same mistake over and over again, especially when choosing the wrong people to spend the rest of your life with. For more offline and online dating tips, read other posts on the blog.